Home > Sex > Sex tips Updated 08 January 2014 Oral sex: blow your mind When it comes to oral sex, people have many different opinions. What are your views? Hot or not? 9 iStock Check Are you a sex addict? » Ask Sexologist » Join Health24 on Facebook » Quiz Are you ready for sex? » How porn addiction can affect your sex life Fun facts on STIs When it comes to oral sex, people have many different opinions. Most men love receiving and giving oral sex during foreplay. Women, however, have mixed feelings: some women enjoy it, some hate it, and some just do it to make their partner happy. Some women also feel unnecessarily self-conscious about how they look, taste and smell down there.Whether you call it a blow job, giving head, going down or the more formal cunnilingus or fellatio, oral sex is a personal choice and it is important that both of the partners are comfortable with it – the one should never feel forced into pleasing the other. While oral sex is definitely not a prerequisite for a satisfying sexual relationship, it can be a very pleasurable ingredient of foreplay that often leads to orgasm, even before the actual sexual intercourse.If your partner is willing to experiment but feeling self-conscious, ease them into it by expressing your desire for them and telling them how much you enjoy giving/receiving oral sex. Don't be shy to ask them what they like and, if you're on the receiving end, guide your partner and let them know when they're hitting the right spot. Experiment with your mouth, lips, tongue and fingers – blow, suck, squeeze and tickle – your partner’s groaning will soon confirm whether you’re on the right track.If you don't like the taste or smell when going down, use a flavoured lubricant or get creative with chocolate, cream or whatever tickles your fancy. When it comes to blow jobs, there is also the question of spit or swallow? Again this is entirely up to you. Not all women like the taste and it can even make them feel nauseous. There are many little tricks to solve this problem. Get him to wear a flavoured condom or feed him some aromatic fruit such as pineapple – apparently it helps to sweeten the taste! Should you choose to swallow, taking his penis deep into your throat will not only have your lover go wild with excitement, it will also bypass your taste buds completely.Let go of your inhibitions and enjoy the intimacy and sensuality. Once you succumb to the moment and become aroused yourself, the little worries will quickly transpire into thin air. Finally, when practising oral sex, remember to be safe. You don't want nasty STDs to linger with you far longer than the sexy memories. What are your thoughts on oral sex? Hot or not? Write to us, and don't worry, we'll keep your identity a secret. Read more:A guide to safe oral sex More in Sex The history of the vibrator More: SexSex tips advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 9 comments Comments have been closed for this article. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... From our sponsors 4 clever ways to stay active this winter Key signs you need a change in diet Clear your head with fast-acting, long-lasting Sinutab® Nasal Spray Why is asthma still killing South Africans? Live healthier Switch the caffeine for calm » Two minutes to healthy winter eating Winter exercise lifts spirits Quit coffee for yoga – 3 postures to energise your day If you are like most westerners, and use coffee as a means to kick start your pressure filled day, consider trading caffeine for calm. It’s not you, it’s your brain » Sleepless nights may fuel daytime Facebook binges Will brain freeze ice up your brain? Why do you get first-night jitters in a different bed? If you can’t sleep properly on the first night in a new place, rest assured it’s not you, it’s your brain.