Updated 04 March 2014

5 tips to spice up your sex life

We’ve got some tips to spice up your sex life and achieve ultimate satisfaction.

Being able to evaluate your sex life, get out of frustrating ruts and make the necessary changes for a satisfying sex life for you and your partner isn’t as easy as it sounds.

Amongst other things, a healthy sex life is about understanding your body and its needs, knowing which forms of contraception are right for you and being able to effectively protect and pleasure yourself and your partner. Here's how to spice up your sex life and achieve ultimate satisfaction.

1. In the mood

It is important to be able to read your partner so you are able to tell when your partner is ready for some good loving. This is where body language comes in, as it’s one of the best indicators of a person’s mood. For example, when a woman seems fidgety and keeps stroking her neck or simply touching herself without being aware; that could be an indicator that she’s “in the mood”, while for men it could be inadvertently displaying their crotch. Always remember that these are simply indicators and it's not always guaranteed, so always approach the other person with respect, love and understanding.

2. Creating the right atmosphere

Being in the mood has a lot to do with the ambience, which is often just as important as the act itself. The key to creating the right atmosphere is to think about the five senses; touch, sight, smell, taste and hearing. Try to create an atmosphere that appeals to all of them and excite your partner on different levels.

3. Foreplay

The build-up is a very important part, so pay attention to your partner and if necessary take things slow so your partner may catch up. Make the most of those erogenous zones – they are there for a reason. Fool around with your partner and you will soon figure out what works best for you both. A sensual massage is a good place to start and to make it that much better, maybe try some massage lube. Durex Play™ Lubes offer a variety of choices, including the Play™ Aloe Vera which offers a silky smooth sensual treat that is gentle on the skin and suitable for any time or place.

4. Masturbation

We all do it! Okay, maybe not, but an important thing to remember about masturbation, is that it needn’t be a solo sport nor a shameful one! Include it in your ‘fun sex time’ with your partner to be enjoyed by the both of you.  Don’t be shy to show your partner your favourite techniques and encourage them to share theirs with you. The more you share and communicate with each other, the better the experience will be.

5. Condoms

Condoms have become more advanced and can now add to your sexual pleasure and even help to spice things up. Both sexes are definitely spoilt for choice when it comes to the variety of condoms available in the Durex range, many of which are made to add to your pleasure while protecting you. For those who are new to condom use, the Durex Easy On range, is shaped in a manner to make it easy to roll on and  wear, while Durex Featherlite is ultra-fine for enhanced sensitivity and Durex Pleasuremax offers uniquely positioned ribs and raised dots for extra pleasure in all the right places.  
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