Updated 29 May 2013

Tips for women: about men

We offer a few tips and guidelines to move women from the passenger seat into the driver's seat.


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In too many couples, men are the "driver", and sexual technique is like a manual. Nothing but silence comes from the back seat should he perform the task well, yet as soon as he makes a glitch, he'll know all about it - or, worse, be greeted with silence there too.

Now the number is up for those passengers in the back seat to take the wheel and prove themselves.

The time has come to stop relying on "him" to perform and create miracles in bed. It is time for women to do their part.

Here follow a few tips that can move a woman from the passenger seat into the driver's seat. With the guidelines and information that follow, women will be able to perform a few new tricks or understand what her man really is thinking of and what he's really after.


The most important asset a woman can attain is self-confidence. A confident woman who is a number one turn-on for a man.

The quickest way to turn the heat down in a sexual relationship is for women to say: "don't look there, its gross". He's with you because he fancies you, dummy. He doesn not expect you to look like an airbrushed supermodel. By dissing yourself, you're sending the message that he cannot be happy with you, as you are not happy with yourself.

Confidence should also be about your ability and willingness to try new things. This will allow the aspect of creativity to enter into your relationship creating not only a greater bond, but also allowing each partner to understand how the other feels and thinks.

Instigate the procedures

There is a 90 percent chance that the man in your life is there, because he approached you and made the first move. The chances are he was the one to move in for the first kiss, and the first one to put through the idea of moving the relationship to the next level. 

There is nothing more of a turn-on for a man than to be approached by his partner and seduced to move the relationship onto that next level.


Get to know your own body. Many women don't themselves know what it takes for them to be satisfied or what they like, so how on earth can their partners know?

Women, do some self experimentation.

Do it like they do it on the Discovery Channel

No I'm not referring to wild monkey love, I'm referring to inquisitiveness. 

Why is pornography so popular amongst men? The answer: For the same reason boys take apart toasters and everything else that they can get their hands on. Men like to understand how things work.

Investigate your partner's erogenous zones, and find out how he likes to be touched.

Take control

This comes back to the self-confidence thing. Contrary to popular belief, men appreciate the difference between a quickie and real love-making. By taking control (sometimes) you can free him up to allow him to enjoy the sexual act in its entirety.

(Nicholas Ward, for Health24)

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