This is Step 9 of the Sexual Superhero programme for premature ejaculation which was developed by sensualist Jonti Searll.
The most important words when it comes to this step here are: communication, patience, breathing and relaxation.
The position that you use in the beginning stages of the penetration exercise is very important and has direct bearing on the result. If you’re on top in the classic missionary position, you have very little control of your pelvic muscles until they’re much stronger.
The best positions are for your partner to be in a rear-entry position such as doggy or the T. For the T your partner lies on her back with her legs up, feet on the ground or bed. You lie on your side at a right angle to her, your genitals aligned with hers.
Once you’ve penetrated you can intertwine your legs.
This is a great position as it allows for eye contact, relaxation and your hands are free to touch.
Whatever position you’re going to use, once you’ve penetrated, begin to move very slowly.
When you’re close to orgasm, not so close that you’re right on the edge, stop. Don’t move a muscle.
Give at least five deep belly breaths. Relax all your muscles, particularly your pelvic muscles.
When the energy has slowed down and you feel in control, start moving again, even if it is only a few strokes. When you get close, not edge close, stop.
Repeat this at least five times.
Talk about the experience afterwards.
It is fine if you can only manage a few strokes between each stopping time in the beginning. For the first week, give yourself a day between practising.
The advanced practice (after your second or third week)
When you stop, breathe in. Contract your PC muscles, release, breathe out.
When you’ve got that rhythm, add the long contraction. As you release it, you’ll feel the awesome flood of sexual energy move through your body, up your spine.
(Jonti Searll, sensualist, October 2010)
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