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Create a sensual space
Light some candles. Even in the daytime candles give a room a special quality and enhance the mood.
Choose the music for your massage with care – preferably instrumental with no lyrics, not even your favourite love songs.
Light some incense and scatter some rose petals around the room. You might also want to have a tray of snacks, water, juice, wine, fruit and chocolate available. The idea is to indulge all your senses.
Oil it up
A good massage oil or cream with a subtle scent is a must – avoid those that are highly fragranced as men and women have a very different sense of smell. Ideally you should warm the oil beforehand.
Then, for one of the most delicious sensations ever, place the warm oil in a jug with a thin pouring spout and slowly trickle it onto your partner’s body. It’s messy – place plenty of towels underneath your partner – but it’ll simply melt them into ecstasy.
Breathe deeply
Before you even touch your lover with your hands, touch him or her with your breath. This is called Bliss Body Massage and finds its origins in the ancient pleasure arts of the East.
Blow hot and cold breaths, hard and soft, all over your partner’s body. The sensation is extremely intimate and incredibly connecting.
Tune your touch
Sensual touch should be slow and gentle – it’s not a sports massage and you’re not looking for knots to knead out. This kind of massage is languid and super-slow. The slower you stroke, the more your partner will relax.
Spine lineBegin your massage on the back and stroke slowly up and down the spine with one finger.
Sacral circle
Make a circle with your palm on the sacrum 6 – the flat bone between the hips.
Broad strokes
Move your hands over the whole body, one up each leg, then up the back, down the arms and all the way back to where you started.
Fore(arm) play
Spread some oil on your forearms and stroke your partner’s body. You can touch much more skin this way. Slide your forearms from the middle of your partner’s spine: one up and one down. Then stroke them both up and down the spine.
In the grooves
Remember that all the body creases are extra sensitive – the wrists, elbows, armpits, neck, and the back of the knees. The grooves at the base of the bottom, top of the thigh and between the cheeks of the buttocks are especially sensitive. Any sensation – from a firm touch to a gentle fingertip stroke – will feel even more intense.
Take your time
Touching slowly forces you to relax and feel more with your hands. This way you get as much from giving the massage as your partner does from receiving it. The slower the build-up, the more powerful the sexual energy!
Also, it’s very important to understand that a woman can take longer than a man to become aroused. But starting slowly allows you to effectively fan the flames and create a raging inferno...
Build it up
If your massage is going anywhere sexual, make your first genital touch (only after 15 to 20 minutes) no more than a whisper. Just brush the genitals lightly, then stroke away, up or down the body. As you slowly slide back, the anticipation adds to the sensation.
Talk about it
Of course, everyone has their unique “buttons” – areas that are more sensitive than others. How do you find your lover’s? It’s simple: you ask.
You can ask with words or with your hands – with focus, you’ll learn to feel how your partner’s body responds to certain touches and to explore new ways of touching
Share the love
Don’t worry about whose turn it is. Sometimes you’ll both give and receive a massage, while on other occasions it might be just for you.
Bear in mind that sensual massage isn’t always about sex. The key is to tap into the art of touching, connecting and creating a bubble of intimacy. When you touch from your heart, it will be an experience of deep love as well as physical pleasure.
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