Updated 23 October 2013

Tips for great sex with small penises

There is much more to sex than penetration. Here are tips for men who feel they are not big enough.


One of men’s greatest fears about their penises is that they’re not big enough. For some men it doesn’t matter how big it is, it will never be big enough. The truth is that for most men size is more an ego issue than anything else.

It’s vital to be aware of the fact that sex is not only about penetration, there is so much more to enjoy and explore. We are all ‘whole-body’ beings. The deepest and most satisfying experiences include all of ourselves, not just our genitals.

There has been such a focus in the media on orgasms that we take that to be the goal of sex. But it’s not a goal-directed act. Sex and sensuality are about love, pleasure, exploring, excitement. Orgasms are great, but there’s more!

It’s also important to note that very few women actually have orgasms through sheer penetration.

Techniques that focus on oral stimulation, genital massage, expanded orgasm etc can bring enormous satisfaction, deep pleasure and orgasms.

One of the most amazing sensations is to be found in rubbing the head of your penis, lots of lubricant, on her clitoris. It feels totally different to a finger or tongue.

Different positions will also allow for different internal sensations. Rear-penetration such as ‘doggy’, woman on top, woman on her back, legs over her shoulders will give some very cool sensations, almost regardless the size of a penis.

- Jonti Searll, Sensualist

(Picture: amorous couple from Shutterstock)


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