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Why do we talk about “losing” your virginity? If you do it right, the first time you have sex should be an occasion when you gain a lot. Not just the immediate pleasure of the experience, but also the sense of having moved into a new phase of adulthood. Make no mistake, it’s momentous. Few of us don’t have clear memories of the very first time we had sexual intercourse.

It’s no wonder the experts say that the first time sets a tone for future encounters. People who had a positive experience when they took the plunge into sex are more likely to feel physically and emotionally satisfied with their later sex lives, research shows.

That doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to relive those inadequate drunken fumblings for the rest of your life, though. The key is to analyse what was unsatisfactory and make sure you change the way you’re handling those situations. Finding a true, passionate connection may take a little effort, but you can make sure that tonight is the night you both remember – whether it’s your first time or not.

Read more: Good first-time sex sets the stage

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