re you getting too much sleep? Do you end up watching infomercials on TV? Here are some easy tips for men and women that will light up not just the bedroom ceiling, but your whole neighbourhood too.
Blokes are goal-oriented. They don’t shop - they zero in on the target, buy it and leave. Intimacy requires a slightly less fastidious approach:
For womenMen generally are very excited when women initiate intimacy, and prolonging the undressing part heightens that sense of participation. Combine this by wearing something diaphanous and sexy. Something that makes you feel silly won’t work, because you won’t be able to relax, but be a little adventurous;
Few women realise the power at their disposal, or how potent the allure of an “average-looking” women who puts her mind to it. All it takes is a little confidence and imagination.
Don’t rush. Prolonging the undressing part heightens the pleasure. Combine this coyness with a little brazen self-confidence and keep your man’s blood pressure pills handy. Try things he might never ask you to do, such as kissing his nipples or eyelids;
Try lying your man on his back and rubbing him down with oil or cream. Don’t push too hard on his stomach and delay touching his genitals until the anticipation is excruciating. He may try to join in, in which case pushing him back down and continuing with your rubbing will only heighten the sexual tension;
Blokes react quickly to having their genitals – especially the glans, or the tip of the penis – touched, so he’s likely to ejaculate fairly soon if you continue caressing him. So make the touching a stop-start thing;
Not all men get an erection immediately, even if they’re very aroused. Using your tongue or fingers, or rubbing the penis between your breasts ought to change all that. Using a lubricant will help too;
Like the howling feedback between a microphone and a loudspeaker, being verbal about your enjoyment is a turn-on for most men. So feel free to make a noise. He’ll take it as a compliment.
- (William Smook)
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