There’s a definite spark. You like the twinkle in his eyes. The way she crosses her legs moves you. But how can you know whether that initial attraction would lead to a mutually satisfying sexual experience?
You can’t. Although that visceral feeling of “I like!” is important, it’s only with the unfolding of your relationship that you can be sure of long-term compatibility. But here are some ways to know if you might be on the same sexual page.
Do you like to kiss each other? If there’s a spark of lustful electricity when your lips meet, it’s a good sign that you are going to enjoy more intimate activity.
Do you like the same movies, books, TV programmes? If she’s reading 50 Shades of Grey and you are disgusted, or she thinks your interest in French art movies is boring, there’s a good chance you’re not stimulated by the same types of things.
Do you agree on issues such as monogamy versus polygamy or whether prostitution should be legal? If you’re at odds on most things and unable to agree to disagree, the chances of your negotiating common ground sexually may be less.
The most important thing is to talk, talk, talk. Discuss what turns you on before the moment when you’re about to take off your clothes. And remember, you don’t have to be identical to be compatible. With a little give and take, some time and a few experiments, you’ll soon find that common area where fireworks are possible for both of you.