Take action:
Don't be fobbed off with others telling you to "pull yourself together" or "you should be grateful"; discuss your feelings with your partner and friends; accept that this is not your fault; ask for help from others; get enough rest; prioritise and drop your standards – you can't do as much as you used to around the house; take one step at a time.
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Post natal depression: it's not your fault
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Up to 80% of new mothers have "the blues" shortly after birth. But for others, feelings of depression and anxiety are more severe and can persist for several months. Post-natal depression affects 10 to 30% of all mothers. The good news is that it can be treated successfully.