Home > Mental health > Disorders 15 July 2009 Helping someone with anxiety Do you know how you could help a family member with an anxiety disorder? The South African Depression and Anxiety Group offers advice. 0 Ask CyberShrink » Talk Heart to heart forum » 13 hidden signs of stress Regenerative medicine: replacing brain cells lost from stroke Do you know how you could help a family member with an anxiety disorder? The South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) offers advice: Do not make assumptions about what the affected person needs; ask them. Be predictable; do not surprise them. Let the person with the disorder set the pace for recovery. Find something positive in every experience. If the affected person is only able to go partway to a particular goal, such as a movie theatre or party, consider that an achievement rather than a failure. Do not enable avoidance: negotiate with the person with panic disorder to take one step forward when he or she wants to avoid something. Do not sacrifice your own life and build resentments. Do not panic when the person with the disorder panics. Remember that it is all right to be anxious yourself; it is natural for you to be concerned and even worried about the person with panic disorder. Be patient and accepting, but do not settle for the affected person being permanently disabled. Say: “You can do it no matter how you feel. I am proud of you. Tell me what you need now. Breathe slow and low. Stay in the present. It is not the place that is bothering you, it is the thought. I know that what you are feeling is painful, but it is not dangerous. You are courageous.” Do not say: “Relax. Calm down. Do not be anxious. Let me see if you can do this (i.e. setting up a test for the affected person). You can fight this. What should we do next? Do not be ridiculous. You have to stay. Do not be a coward.” - SADAG, July 2009 NEXT ON HEALTH24X 'The plane is going to crash': Anxiety aboard flight SAA 323 2017-10-17 07:45 More: Mental healthDisorders advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 0 comments Comments have been closed for this article. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... Other news Medical TB levels rising in Northern Cape Diet and nutrition 4 signs you’re not getting enough protein Diet and nutrition This is how you will avoid gaining weight this festive season Lifestyle ‘I was sexually harassed at work – this is how I stopped it for good’ Fitness 6 mistakes you make when deadlifting that are screwing up your back News 15 astounding facts about the human body From our sponsors Discover treatments that can help reduce acne What can I do to reduce or remove acne marks? Dementia and Incontinence: what you need to know WIN a R2000 Skin Renewal online store voucher! Live healthier Watch out! » Gross fungal infections you can pick up at the gym You go to gym to exercise. But make sure the only thing you pick up is a dumbbell and not one of these gross fungal infections. Holiday health » Your 10-step asthma holiday checklist Don’t let asthma ruin your summer holiday. Whether you are travelling or embracing the summer at home, make sure you plan ahead.