Childhood Diseases

Posted by: grandmother | 2009-11-29


Will welfare give me grandkids temporarily

I need to know more about welfare and what they could, or will do, where my daughter is concerned.

My husband and I live right next door to my daughter who is married and has two children. The children' s ages are 4 and 1. My daughter has anger issues and does not give her children the love they deserve, especially the older one. The child is not allowed to put a foot wrong, not allowed to play with toys around the house as the mom is house proud. She is scolded most of the time she is with her mother. My husband and I try to keep the child with us most of the time to avoid these problems. Soon, as the younger one is getting older, he will be going through the same thing as the little girl.

I had a fallout with my daughter because of her saying things to the little girl, eg. I hate your father, OR, I hope he dies on his bike. (They have marital problems especially due to her anger problems).

They are seeing a councilor but these things take long to be resolved. Meanwhile, the kids are suffering. Because of my fallout with my daughter, she now keeps the kids away from me. This is not acceptable to me, as I take excellent care of them and will not harm them in anyway.

If I call in welfare to help with this problem, is there any chance that these kids will be taken to a foster home as that I certainly can not allow. I love these kids and being their grandmother will take the best care anyone can possibly give them. Please give me advice. Thank you.

Expert's Reply



If your daughter is assessed as being an 'unfit' mother to her children by social services there is the danger that they will be put up for foster care.As her grandparents you would have a strong case to foster your grandchildren, but I am not certain if this is definitely the situation..However the basic problem appears to be that your daughter has serious psychological or psychiatric problems. She certainly has a serious OCD disorder and her anger attacks seem to be serious too.She really needs psychiatric help.

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