Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Worried mom | 2009-04-16


Toilet issues for my 3 year old son

Hi Doctor
Please give me some advice on how to handle this situation.
My son is 3 years old and he doesnt'  like going to the toilet. He holds the wee in until he is absolutely bursting then I take him to the toilet and he does it. When he wants to poo he asks me to put a nappy on him as he is scared of falling into the toilet. He doesn' t wear a nappy during the day only at night. The strange thing is is that most children are holding their private parts or jumping up and down in desparation but my son doesn' t show any of these signs that he is bursting. What must I do to try and get him to go to the toilet?
Thank you

Expert's Reply



This is just a stage your son is going through.He is now using the toilet to pass urine. He seems a bit concerned about the toilet still when he tries to pass a stool. He is scared of falling in.He should be wearing trainer pants now.You need to offer him rewards if he successfully uses the toilet. Just something small and give him lots of praise if he succeeds.He will get things right, just be very patient.

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Posted by: rensche | 2009-04-16

hi there i am also potty training my 3 year old. he didn' t like going to the toilet aswell so i took him outside to " water the flowers"  for me. i also bought a toilet seat and sat with him on the toilet. that helped. he goes to the toilet by himself now. just encourage him, and tell him that you are proud of him every time he " waters the flowers"  or uses the toilet.make as it is the greatest accomplishment, never show that you are frustrated or irritated with him. and asked him regularly if he doesn' t feel like watering the flowers because they seem " thirsty." 

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