Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Hil | 2010-06-07


temper tantrums

My 2 year old granddaughter throws terrible temper tantrums where she appears to go into another zone. I don''t know how to deal with this. She also lifts her hand to smack you in the face.

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Temper tantrums are very common at this age and questions about these tantrums appear very commonly on this forum.She is old enough to be disciplined.When she starts with a tantrum speak firmly and clearly and tell her to 'Stop that !' If she continues immediately put her in her room and only let her out when she stops screaming. She should say she is sorry when she comes out of her room.If she starts up again or tries to hit you or anyone else immediately put her back in her room and close the door. This must be done each and every time she has a tantrum. She will soon stop this behaviour.

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Posted by: Purple | 2010-06-07

Don''t panic, this is perfectly normal behaviour for this age - though of course you want it to stop.

When she starts a tantrum, start by removing the audience (you) or if you are in public or there are others around, pick her up and remove her from the audience. This usually stops the intensity of the tantrum as nobody performs without an audience.

Don''t shout or smack or give any form of attention for the behaviour as this actually encourages it. I used to turn my back on my son if I couldn''t pick him up and put him in his room.

I don''t know about appearing to go into another zone - does she sort of zone out while having the tantrum or does she stay this way afterwards?
If its during the tantrum, they do get so lost in the acting out of the tantrum that they do appear to be unaware of their surroundings, but you can tell they aren''t as when they throw themselves to the ground they make sure to do it in a way that doesn''t hurt.

Tantrums can stem from hunger, tiredness, thirst and frustration with trying to do something they can''t or from not yet having the verbal skills to say what they are trying to say.
Make sure that your grandchild drinks plenty of water or diluted fruit juice, eats lots of fresh fruit and vegetables as part of her meals and that she eats three main meals and at least two snacks (so that she is eating small meals every two or three hours).
Make sure she sleeps when she should.
Also plan enough time to get going for activities or outings so that you don''t feel frustrated by the rush.
The tantrums from frustration lessen with time as the children''s skills and verbal skills improve.

After a tantrum, tell her sternly that it made you sad and perhaps give a two minute time out on the naughty chair or in her room. Use a kitchen timer so that you all know when time is up. If she gets up from the spot, put her back and the time starts at the beginning again.
Put her down, and walk away, if you hover, you invite her to get up and antagonise you.

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