Childhood Diseases

Posted by: S | 2009-06-10


Seperation Anxiety

My son is going to be 11 months this month and he has developed severe seperation anxiety. I play with him in the mornings before work until 8am when his nanny arrives and I have to leave for work. It seems as the clock rolls on to 8am the worse the seperation anxiety gets - I cannot even put him down and he just moans constantly. When he see'  s his nanny at the door he smiles and is happy to see her and then its almost as if he realises that mommy is leaving and his face goes from absolute excitement to absolute sadness. The nights have also gotten bad - he used to sleep through from 19.30 - 7.00 no problem but now he wakes up about 5 times at night and as soon as I am standing over his cot he tries to grab my hand or get out - the few, very few, times he has come to our bed and slept in my arms he sleeps well. In the afternoon when I get home from work he clings to me constantly - I think he is scared that I am leaving again.I also need him to get back to his routine of sleeping through again. Please help. Thank you

Expert's Reply



This is a very common problem and is found in virtually all babies from about 7 months onwards.It becomes less of a problem by about 2 years, but may persist much longer. If you have no choice but have to leave your baby every morning to go to work it is important to have a good nanny. You seem to have good nanny and your son likes her.Always leave your baby with his favourite toys.Do not leave him in a hurry but always allow time for him to settle in with his nanny before leaving in the mornings. Don't return if your hear him crying.Phone home once you are at work and confirm that your baby has settled down. This stage will take some time to pass over but your son will eventually settle down.

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