Childhood Diseases

Question
Posted by: Mommy | 2009/01/08

Q.

Restless Sleeping with 21 month old

My daughter is 21 months old. In December we spent a full 2 weeks together while her nursery school closed and I was on leave.
From the start of her scool holidays she has been waking up during the night and wanting me to comfort her. There have been nights where she is waking up screaming, almost with a terrified scream and won' t go back to sleep unless I put her im my bed with me. She went back to school on the 5th and she is still not sleeping though, so I have no choice but to put her in my bed with me because she cries for me.
Why would she be going through this stage? Is it seperation anxiety? She is also very clingy and won' t stay in her room on her own while playing with her toys, she has to come with me and also wants to be picked up all the time. It' s almost as if she is scared that I will leave her and not return?
I went through a similar stage when her dad used to take her every second Sunday for his visits, I put a stop to him taking her, and she settled down nicely. But I can' t think of why she would be going through this. Would it be as simple as us spending all that time together in December?
Please advise, I am quite worried about her.

Expert's Reply

A.

Paediatrician

There are several possibilities here and it is difficult to tell you exactly what is causing your daughter's behaviour problems now. She certainly does seem to be insecure and does have a problem with separation anxiety. She also is having 'night terrors' which is common at this age.It seems that you are not living with her father which may explain her separation anxiety. She has got used to getting into bed with you and unless you are firm about her staying put in her room this is going to become a difficult habit to break. She needs lots of patience, love and reassurance especially when she wakes up at night, but she must stay in her own bed.She will settle down and feel more secure again.

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Posted by: TANYA | 2009/01/09

HI THERE MOMMY. MY DAUGHTER IS ALSO ALMOST 21MTHS OLD,ALTHOUGH DADDY AND I ARE TOGETHER, JUST TO LET YOU FEEL BETTER.I DO AGREE WITH THE DOCTOR,TO PUT HER IN HER OWN BED.BUT MY CHILD ALSO GO THROUGH THIS STAGE,SHE WAKES UP,AND THEN CRIES,LAST MONTH IT SOUNDED LIKE SHE IS GONNA SCREEM THE WHOLE HOUSE DOWN.ALSO WANTED TO GET IN BED WITH ME AND DADDY,IT STILL CONTINUES,SHE ALSO WAKES UP EVERY NIGHT,I WAS ON LEAVE FOR TWO WEEKS, FOR ONE WEEK SHE WOKE UP LIKE 4 TIMES A NIGHT!! SOMETHING SHE NEVER DO,LUCKALY IT IS BACK TO NORMAL NOW,ONCE A NIGHT,SHE USED TO SLEEP THROUGH. I TRIED TO BE FIRM AND PUT HER IN HER OWN BED,IT DOES NOT HELP,BECAUSE I GO BACK AND PICK HER UP - A MISTAKE I KNOW, BUT WHAT I DO IS, I PUT HER IN BED WITH HER BOTTLE AND THEN I LAY WITH HER TILL SHE SLEEPS,THAT WORKS,BUT AT NIGHT SHE WANTS ME AGAIN, WE MUST JUST LEARN THEM SLEEP DISSIPLINE, BUT REALLY I AM TO TIRED IN THE MORINING HOURS IF SHE CRIES FOR ME, SO YES MOMMY, I THINK IT IS TIPICAL A 21MONTHS OLD THINGY!! THEY SAY CHILDREN THIS AGE GOES THROUGH A ANXIETY, SO YES, I AM IN THE SAME SAME BOAT!

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