Childhood Diseases

Question
Posted by: lalala girl | 2010-05-25

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little cousin being let bown by mom

hey doc,
my aunt is not a good mother to my little cousin, she is in grade 1 now turning 9 soon, she was kept behind and all doctors come up with oter excuses but personally i feel that the only " disorder"  the child has is a careless unloving mother who thinks the child only needs food medication and bed. any child needs special attention from the day of birth, but the firstborn boy was always his mothers favourite, now she wants to buy her guilt of being bad mother to her daughter in making sure the kid has enough ritalin!!!!!!!!! my goodness, it makes the child depressed! she always comes to me for love and attention since i stayed with them when i was in highschool, i was always there for her, now i have my own life, and my husband doesnt like it if she comes and sleep over at our place cause she is so attached to me,she even goes with me to the toilet! i wish the mother could only see that all she need is love and attention, and stop givinh her the ritalin! what can i do, cause i feel personally the girl is gonna have bipolar when she gets older..is it posible or what, please help, i dont know whom to talk to?

Expert's Reply

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Paediatrician

This is a very sad story and I feel very sorry for this little girl. Does her doctor know about her mother not giving her any love? It is no use giving Ritalin when love is what is needed. Short of discussing this problem with the child's doctor and then possibly reporting her mother to social services there is very else little that you can do at this stage.If you cannot foster her yourself then there does not appear to be an easy solution for this problem.

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Posted by: Purple | 2010-05-25

As you don''t live with them, you don''t know if she constnatly seeks attention and is given it, but when you are around, because your aunt is so desperate for a break, she is happy to let you give all teh attention. Perhaps the child needs to be on the ritalin.
You''ve seen what the little girl is like when she stays over with you, perhpas she is like that with her mother at home all the time.

As you aren''t a parent, you aren''t aware of the demands children make on you and how, no matter how much you leave them, there are days when you just wish you could lock yourself in a room with ear plugs in and lie down and do nothing but stare at the ceiling for two hours just to give your ears, eyes and mind a break from teh relentless demands and enable you to cope again for another few months.

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