Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Kt | 2012-10-08


Emotional immaturity

I have a 5 yr old son who the pre-school teacher says is Emotionally immature. I havent notice any problems at home. He is doing well with the work. She says I must have him assessed or see a psychologist. What does she mean? Does he cry or throw tantrums? At home he is a normal little boy. He isnt my first child so I know about children. I know she shouts a lot and is very strict? He is very bright and communicates very well with me. She shouts at him and then he withdraws and wont talk to her.
Im just needing to know what is emotional immaturity in a 5yr old?

Expert's Reply



Your son's teacher is saying that his maturity is not up to what she expects of a 5 year old boy. From your description he seems to be a perfectly normal 5 year old boy. He appears to be dead scared of his teacher and as a result can hardly say a word especially when she shouts at him. As soon as he is out of her class and has a more understanding teacher all will be well with your son. In the meantime you need to make sure that your boost his confidence as much as possible when he is at home.

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Posted by: R | 2012-10-08

Hi Kt,
Ok, we are in Joburg. And yes, I had the same responses from my sons school, that he will have problems at big school, Gr 1 also in 2014.
I''m really angry about the whole thing, especially since I didn''t know how to explain to my child why we were going to see this woman, and the best I could come up with was she is going to prep him for Gr 0. And I knew there was nothing wrong, or bothering my child.
These teachers think we are very neglectful of our children, but I doubt they realise, in my case because I work, I probably spend more quality time with my child than some full-time mums and am very connected to him.
Good luck, I hope you will post an update soon.

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Posted by: Kt | 2012-10-08

Hi R

I also had a run in with teacher because I said there is nothing wrong with him. I told her it is her approach towards him and that he is wary and a bit scared of her. She is telling me I will have a problem when he goes to Grade 1 which is only in 2014. how can she a pre-school teacher make such an assumption from that? We live in a small town in Eastern Cape.

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Posted by: R | 2012-10-08

I would love to know which school your child is in, because I''m dealing with the very same issue with my 5 yr old. At home he is the best 5yr old around, yet at school there are problems.
I took him to a play therapist at their request, my cost, my inconvenience, only to have the therapist report all his behaviour is age appropriate, and the behaviour picked up at school is learned, from the other children, and due to differences in the home and school environment rules, etc.
Before doing anything, like making appointments with therapists, write down your own observations at home, around family and friends, on public playgrounds, etc, on the issues raised by the school and see if there is any similarities with their observations, and discuss it with the school first.
I think they like to make things bigger then they are.
I first threw the ball in their court to see what their response is regarding the opposing observations, and now am waiting for the next meet after sending them the therapists report.
I wonder if our kids are going to the same school, it would be interesting to find out.

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