Childhood Diseases

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Posted by: KB | 2008/10/28

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Discipline toddlers - mom very sad

Does any of you experience the same problem. My baby of 18 months old is moaning and crying if she can' t get her way. And she' s the type of baby that wants to be in your arms the whole day. Yesterday I shouted at her and smacked her on her bum and told her that what she is doing is wrong and she should stop her crying. She got such a big scare, cause mommy never shouts at her. I am 30 weeks pregnant and I don' t know if this can be hormones, but it made me cry almost immediately without her seeing. This morning I shouted at her again and gave her a hiding and she just layed on my shoulder. How do you deal with a child that moans and cries the whole time if it' s either their way or no way? Shouldn' t the child go according to what you tell them to do - otherwise she' s going to walk all over me (if she hasn' t already). I cried all the way to work today after dropping her off at creche this morning. She' s still my baby and I just want her to be happy.

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Posted by: Anon2 | 2008/10/28

An 18 month old baby cannot even talk yet, moaning and nagginga nd crying is their only way of communicating. And to display independence, fight' s of will do emerge!

I suggest you start understanding the stages of development of your toddler so you will be less aggressive towards her.

No baby is " supposed"  to obey every command laid down by the parent. A child may be expecte to do that, yes.. but not a baby. How can you want her to stop her moaning when it' s her way of communictaing her frustrations to you?

Parenting is not easy and we all lose our cool... but smacking an 18 month old because they are nagging is uncalled for and not acceptable!

Put her frustrations into words... When she nags, tell her she doesn' t have to nag, mommy knows she want o play with eth knife but it' s very dangerous, why don' t we rather go and play with Mr Muggles! Saying NO all the time also just
fuels the fire for a breakdown with a toddler. You need to learn to be more creative in saying NO wihout actually saying the word!

Best of luck.

Reply to Anon2
Posted by: CV | 2008/10/28

Hi KB....

I understand completely, i on MANY occassions loose my cool and have an out burst. I feel terrible , like a bad mommy. We mommies r just so stressed with all there is to be done and im sure your hormones r raging at themoment. My daughter is 9 and she just CAN' T HELP BUT TEASE my little 4 yrs old boy. And BOY! can he moan , ( must have inherited that from his mommy... lol..)
Don' t beat yourself up TOO much.... just take it 1 day at a time, otherwise u will feel like i do sometimes..... like my kids hold me HOSTAGE.... bcos i feel so bad about shouting , i will let them get away with other things.....
All the best CV

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