Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Bigmamma | 2009-07-09


Crying method?

Good day!!
I’ m 7 weeks pregnant with my second child, and was wondering if what I’ m about to do has any influence on my first child’ s emotional and physiological state. She is 14 months old and totally spoiled! She doesn’ t sleep in her own bed and she doesn’ t sleep through the night ether. I am still breastfeeding her at this moment but would like to quit that as well!!
I’ ve done some research about controlled crying and realized that this is my only chance of a normal life style, especially now that the second baby is on the way! While I’ m doing the controlled crying method, I would like to take her of the breast as well, at the same the! But the most important Q is, is this going to have an impact on my first born emotional en physiological? Can this harm my child in the future?
Thank you in advance for your urgent response in this matter!
Have a nice day.
Desperate mommy!

Expert's Reply



This is not an easy question to answer because you are going to do two significant things at the same time;you will take her out of your bed and stop breast feeding.This may be very difficult for her to accept. Perhaps you should start by just taking her off the breast and substituting with a bottle. Then give her about 10 days to get used to this and then move her out of your bed.At this point you may need to apply the controlled crying technique.

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Posted by: R | 2009-07-09

All I can say is expect a tough emotional time ahead, until she is settled in. She will only realise who is actually in control, U not her, when you use this mehod, seeing that she does have control now.
When I had to make changes through each milestone (my son is almost 2), I learned (and it is difficult) when to ignore the crying and not say a word, not even look at him, after which he' d give up. The worst thing you can do is feel sorry, and its hard not to, but dont show it. Take control of the situation, you are the adult.
I also wonder if my child will feel rejected and neglected in the long term, but I think they will be ok. How else will you manage and control you child if you let her be in control...
Be strong!

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