Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Jo | 2011/06/13


5 year old thinks she is fat-please help

My 5 year old is very self conscious about her weight.
For about 2 years (3-5) she had a child in her class that kept telling her she is fat and ugly. This affected her alot as she would sometimes not want to eat her food as she was affraid it would make her fat and even said that the girl told her to stick her finger in her mouth to get thin. She even stood in front of the mirror and pull her tummy in and tell me that is what she wants to look like. We make a point of telling her she looks pretty and looks nice ect.
The little girll in her class has now left the school for the last 3 months and things have been much better, or so I thought. On Friday when stopping to pick some food up I told her that she must taste what I had bought as it was something new to her. I told her that it is healthy food and we eat healthy food to look after our bodies and to not get sick and that is why she must at least taste and let me know if she likes it.
Before we even got to the tasting she started to cry and she told my husband and I that she dreams to be thin and that her tummy is fat.
she is not at all over weight and is a normal built little girl, she is also not surrounded by people who keep talking about loosing weight or that they are fat either
What can I do to help my little girl from developing a serious eating disorder?

Expert's Reply



Your daughter is very young to already be so upset about her body image. The child who teased her at school has certainly done a great deal of damage to your daughter's self-confidence and self-image.You will get a lot of information following your question on this forum, but it would be best to take her to see achild psychologist at this stage.Your daughter's concerns about her weight are a real problem and she is not easily convinced otherwise despite still being so young. You are correct we need to nip this in the bud now or you will have a child with a serious eating disorder.

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Posted by: Nini | 2011/06/14

Jo, is this you my friend? Or another Jo?

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Posted by: Maria | 2011/06/13

Jo this is very concerning in a child this young. Consider taking her to a child psychologist, a good one really has the ability to get through to our kids on a level that we as parents often can''t. Also some messages kids accept easier from other people than from strangers, I''m sure you''ve experienced teacher-is-always-right! Also, maybe get her teacher to talk to the class about the fact that people come in all shapes and sizes, and as long as you eat healthy and get some exercise, you''re fine.

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