Childhood Diseases

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Posted by: anon | 2009-03-31

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3year old acting up

i have a lil girl turning 3 in june, her father and i have not been living togteher since november last year and we made a shared residency agreement between us that we have her 2 days on 2 days off and every 2nd weekend etc..... so that we get exactly equal time with her ...she hasnt shown any problems till she started school 2 weeks ago and everytime she is by me she starts screaming at night for me and wont sleep unless im there by her...when she falls asleep she wakes up screaming for me and is only settled if she is holding me or sleeping next to me, i still asked her does she wanna stay by daddy to see if it was me and she said no she wanst to stay by me and she only acts up like this when she is by me and not her dad....is she getting seperation anxiety frome me?? if so why only by me and not the dad as we get equal time with her

Expert's Reply

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Paediatrician

Your little girl is very confused by these arrangements. She is feeling very insecure and obviously has separation anxiety. She needs more time with you. Perhaps she should be with you all week and her Dad can only see her every second weekend.This is only a suggestion, but your present arrangement is not working for your daughter.

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Posted by: ann | 2009-03-31

This agreement may suit you and her father, but definately not her. It must be absolutely terrifying for her to be every two days with another parent, especially now when she is going to school. It seems as if she is very scared of losing you (that you might not return). I think she will benefit by staying with one parent during the week(you preferably, as this is what her need is as a three year old, her mom) and alternate weekends.

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