Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Just Wondering | 2010-01-13


18 month old


we moved homes in December, which caused our 18 month old to change schools as well. he is a sensitive child and extremely attached to me (his mom). he started at his new school last week wednesday and he still cries every morning. at his previous school he started in January 2009 and was still crying in the mornings when we dropped him off in October, so we expected him to cry in the mornings as he clearly has issues with saying goodbye. what can we do to make this easier?

The other thing, he is now suddenly battling to fall asleep at night in his room. He' s been sleeping in his own room since he was 3 months old, but last night he cried for an hour and a half before finally falling asleep. we went into his room to calm him down every now and then, and we were all exhausted by the time he fell asleep. Is this because he' s still not comfortable in the new house or his new room? it looks exactly like his previous room as i didn' t change the decor at all, too cause as little disruption as possible.

The other thing is that he is a well behaved little boy when i' m not around but the minute i walk into a room he starts crying and clinging onto me. what am i doing wrong? is this because he is very spoilt (that is the general opinion of our family) by me, as i really try to keep him happy eventhough it' s not always the best thing to do. my head tells me no, but my heart just wins every time. i' m a softy with him and he knows it, so he' s manipulating me now.

how do we change this now? where do i start, what do i do? i' ve been told to maybe take him to see an occupational therapist, but if i' m the problem, then surely that won' t work?

I would appreciate some advice as we' re at our wits end now.


Expert's Reply



This is a very common problem indeed.In the first instance your son has a problem with separation anxiety.Then in addition you have recently moved houses which is very upsetting and unsettling for young children.You are not doing anything wrong. This is just a difficult stage your son is going through.He needs lots of love and reassurance. He needs to know that you are there for him and will definitely come back to fetch him when he attends the creche.Be very patient with him.This is a real problem for your son.Do not let other family members upset you,you are doing the right things. He may benefit from using a children's nightlight in his bedroom at this time.

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Posted by: Beth | 2010-01-14

ja the moving def worries him but try not to spoil him remember u raising a man...

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