Home > Medical > Depression > Psychotherapy 19 December 2008 What you can't expect from your therapist A therapist is there to offer a supportive, safe environment in which you can deal with your problems. But there are certain limits to what you can expect from your therapist. 0 Pin It Talk Man Talk forum » Quiz Could you be bipolar? » Ask CyberShrink » Quiz Are you depressed? » Climate change hit list 10 salty food culprits A therapist is there to offer a supportive, safe environment in which you can deal with your problems. But there are certain limits to what you can expect from your therapist. Don’t expect your therapist to have a magic wand. You’ve established patterns over a number of years and these can’t be unravelled in one or two sessions. You cannot expect your therapist to waive her fees when you are cash strapped. It is your responsibility to ensure that your account is settled either by yourself or by your medical aid. You may, however, raise the issue with your therapist and see if you can come to some arrangement to settle your bill. If you ignore the problem, your therapist is bound to feel resentful and this will jeapardise your therapeutic relationship. Although you might feel that your therapist has become your friend, your therapeutic relationship should only exist during therapy. A therapist cannot be on call at all times and should not cross boundaries by forming friendships with you outside of therapy. If a friendship does develop, it will be your therapist’s responsibility to refer you to someone else. Your therapist cannot “fight your battles for you”. Only in certain cases (and only with your consent) will other people such as your employer or spouse be contacted by your therapist. Ilse Pauw, Health24 Post a question to Cybershrink. More in Medical What is a psychologist? More: DepressionPsychotherapy advertisement Get a quote Momentum - save up to 35% on healthcare advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 0 comments Add your comment Thank you, your comment has been submitted. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... Other news Lifestyle How to survive load shedding Natural How to cure insomnia naturally Medical Global warming could push malaria to higher areas Fitness No preferred treatment for neck pain Lifestyle FDA approves new testosterone drug Medical US fears for patents on next-generation drugs in India From our sponsors Recovery after exercise is an essential part of any workout What is Metabolic Syndrome? Could you have it? Eyecare for computer users Treet-It Anti-Lice aiding schools in the prevention of Head Lice Live healthier Down hill? » Argus Cycle Tour Celebrities who masturbate Can't get it up? Erectile dysfunction and the cyclist Does cycling cause erectile dysfunction? Some urologists seem to think so. Fitness fuel » Banned substances Sport and nutrition Exercise myths busted Are there any 'safe' sports supplements? Sportsmen and -women need to be super vigilant when they take any medication or supplement. Just one wrong step can ruin a promising career, DietDoc warns.