Home > Medical > Depression > Psychotherapy 19 December 2008 What you can't expect from your therapist A therapist is there to offer a supportive, safe environment in which you can deal with your problems. But there are certain limits to what you can expect from your therapist. 0 Pin It Talk Man Talk forum » Quiz Could you be bipolar? » Ask CyberShrink » Quiz Are you depressed? » Climate change hit list 10 salty food culprits A therapist is there to offer a supportive, safe environment in which you can deal with your problems. But there are certain limits to what you can expect from your therapist. Don’t expect your therapist to have a magic wand. You’ve established patterns over a number of years and these can’t be unravelled in one or two sessions. You cannot expect your therapist to waive her fees when you are cash strapped. It is your responsibility to ensure that your account is settled either by yourself or by your medical aid. You may, however, raise the issue with your therapist and see if you can come to some arrangement to settle your bill. If you ignore the problem, your therapist is bound to feel resentful and this will jeapardise your therapeutic relationship. Although you might feel that your therapist has become your friend, your therapeutic relationship should only exist during therapy. A therapist cannot be on call at all times and should not cross boundaries by forming friendships with you outside of therapy. If a friendship does develop, it will be your therapist’s responsibility to refer you to someone else. Your therapist cannot “fight your battles for you”. Only in certain cases (and only with your consent) will other people such as your employer or spouse be contacted by your therapist. Ilse Pauw, Health24 Post a question to Cybershrink. More in Medical What is a psychologist? More: DepressionPsychotherapy advertisement Get a quote Bestmed - offering you quality healthcare and freedom of choice Momentum - save up to 35% on healthcare Medihelp - quality, affordable medical scheme cover advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 0 comments Add your comment Thank you, your comment has been submitted. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... Other news Lifestyle Kids' movies send mixed messages Mental health Depression may be a result of concussion Lifestyle Firms cash in on your flexi-time Lifestyle Poor dental health may affect thinking Lifestyle Cords from blinds may strangle kids Medical US state laws can help curb binge drinking From our sponsors Your retirement - a healthy mindset So many people, why so alone? You can still enjoy the sweet things in life Take the sugar test, it could save your life. Live healthier Grief » Phases of grief Culture and grief Grieving in holidays How do you deal with grief? There is no right way of coping with death. The way a person grieves depends on the personality of that person and the relationship with the person who has died. Weight loss » Healthy snacking Weight and heart Texting and weight 10 tips to lose weight Need to shed some weight? Get rid of those extra kilos for good with these 10 expert weight loss tips, compiled by Health24's DietDoc, Dr Ingrid van Heerden.