Home > Medical > Depression > Psychotherapy 19 December 2008 What you can't expect from your therapist A therapist is there to offer a supportive, safe environment in which you can deal with your problems. But there are certain limits to what you can expect from your therapist. 0 Pin It Talk Man Talk forum » Quiz Could you be bipolar? » Ask CyberShrink » Quiz Are you depressed? » Climate change hit list 10 salty food culprits A therapist is there to offer a supportive, safe environment in which you can deal with your problems. But there are certain limits to what you can expect from your therapist. Don’t expect your therapist to have a magic wand. You’ve established patterns over a number of years and these can’t be unravelled in one or two sessions. You cannot expect your therapist to waive her fees when you are cash strapped. It is your responsibility to ensure that your account is settled either by yourself or by your medical aid. You may, however, raise the issue with your therapist and see if you can come to some arrangement to settle your bill. If you ignore the problem, your therapist is bound to feel resentful and this will jeapardise your therapeutic relationship. Although you might feel that your therapist has become your friend, your therapeutic relationship should only exist during therapy. A therapist cannot be on call at all times and should not cross boundaries by forming friendships with you outside of therapy. If a friendship does develop, it will be your therapist’s responsibility to refer you to someone else. Your therapist cannot “fight your battles for you”. Only in certain cases (and only with your consent) will other people such as your employer or spouse be contacted by your therapist. Ilse Pauw, Health24 Post a question to Cybershrink. More in Medical What is a psychologist? More: DepressionPsychotherapy advertisement Get a quote Selfmed - the one with the apple Momentum - save up to 35% on healthcare Medihelp - quality, affordable medical scheme cover advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 0 comments Add your comment Thank you, your comment has been submitted. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... Other news Lifestyle 1 in 10 in SA has addiction problem Medical Red meat tied to higher diabetes risk Medical Eastern Cape needs drug stock Lifestyle Social media boosts organ donor registration Lifestyle More patients getting lab-grown body parts Diet and nutrition Gene variants may play role in obesity From our sponsors Don’t be taken by surprise this winter, keep your defences up with Vital Hop, skip and jump through winter with Hill’s Pet Nutrition Age-related bone loss is higher in women Conduct your most important Medihelp business from your mobile phone Live healthier Fight off the flu » Flu-proof your home Flu guide Sleep soundly Flu season Boost your defences this winter. Brush up on your smile » Dental caries Bad breath Ask the expert How to brush your teeth Here's the correct way to brush your teeth.