This must be very alarming for you. The usual period
of treatment in rehab usually needs further follow-up and as I'm sure
you realise, when someone leaves even before the usual time has been
completed, there's little chance that they will improve. It's not just a
matter of stopping the drug use, which is relatively easy, but of
It doesn't sound as though he has any real or
strong motivation to stop abusing drug (or, rather, to stop being abused
by them ). HE must make the effort : you cannot do it for him.
your description, it sounds as though he is also abusing you, and
showing no respect for you as people or for the sacrifices you have been
making in order to help him.
There is a very major limit as to how
much you can do for him, especially as it sounds as though he can't be
bothered to help himself. Quite often it may be necessary to let him
experience the natural consequences of his behaviour without your
protection. If he steals things or otherwise breaks the law, let the
law take it's course. A court may, for instance, require him to spend
more time in one of the rare state rehab facilities, which may be strict
enough to get through to him. Should he end up in jail, he may decide
that this is not a good way to live.
It can be difficult and painful
to see him in the mess he put himself in, but so long as he rejects
other choices, he needs to face the situations he is creating for
If you communicate further with him ( and that's not always
useful ) you can offer some support ONLY on condition that he complete a
proper rehab course to the satisfaction of the folks who run it.
Protect yourselves as a priority : there's no advantage in allowing 3
people to be harmed by his choice of bad habits rather than just one.
he had a difficult childhood that's sad, but it is not an excuse for
what he is now doing. Whether he might have other problems as well, such
as depression or bipolar can ONLY be decided by a psychiatrist after a
careful direct assessment, and there's no point in trying to treat such
disorders unless the person will co-operate properly with the treatment
and take the prescribed medications exactly as recommended, or they
could make the situation even more dangerous.
Sadly, some people just do not allow good people like yourselves to help them.
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