ADHD

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Posted by: nicolette | 2012/06/20

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son (13) diagnosed with add i am confused

hi

my son is turning 13 in dec ,went to school when he just turned 6, he seemed to be doing good in school and during the past few years he gained weight etc and changed from being a well balanced boy into a boy which is being bullied and his marks going down a bit, especially maths. after the last incident of being bullied quite bad at school i consulted a psigiatrist, which diagnosed him as add and having had trauma from a while back(my mom past away and my dad which he had a tight bond) the dr prescribed concerta 36mg and paxil 10mg 1x daily, the therapist he went to made a mistake by seeing him for the 1st session with another boy bit younger than he is and said to my son that that boy can read better than him and he was flabbergasted and refusing to go back,

my question is :the add i know is a problem because he cant seem to concentrate and is starting something without finishing he is saying with the concerta it feels like all the files in his mind is falling in place, what can i do from my side to help my son?he is to old to go to an occupational therapist, will he be able to catch up with extra effort from our side with out therapists? what more can i do to help him?

Expert's Reply

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ADHD Expert

Dear Nicolette,

An occupational therapist would only be necessary (in this instance) for fine motor skills and if he struggles with poor muscle tone. From your post it appears he is struggling more with academic components of reading and maths. If I have understood your concerns correctly, it would be beneficial to take your son for one on one remedial or extra lessons in the areas he is struggling. I am appalled that the therapist he was seeing gave any verbal comparison of two children - this should never be done.

If you are able to assist with additional lesson personally you can do this too.

It is important to remember that ADHD is present from a very young age, regardless of when it was diagnosed. This means your son may have missed out on some foundation skills prior to being put on Concerta.

Kind regards,
Delia

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Posted by: ERic | 2012/08/29

Ya know what, your sons just a kid. Hes only 13 and hes on medication. Hes a child. every 13 year old has emotional problems one time or another, its a tender age. But to load him up with drugs isn''t helping anything, i know the norm of parents now a days is to just give your kid drugs and expect that to work. Poor kid, coming form a guy who was pretty much a child guinea pic for behavioral, emotional, everything from concerta, paxil, resperdone and more. Its wrong, the kid probably thinks hes broken if he has to take a pill and his friends dont, he will become dependent on them and its not natural to drug children

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Posted by: Henry | 2012/06/22

Nicolette - try and get him into a sport that he can do often as possible. Also I would investigate if he has Aspergers Syndrome if I were you.

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Posted by: ADD/ADHD Expert | 2012/06/22

Dear Nicolette,

An occupational therapist would only be necessary (in this instance) for fine motor skills and if he struggles with poor muscle tone. From your post it appears he is struggling more with academic components of reading and maths. If I have understood your concerns correctly, it would be beneficial to take your son for one on one remedial or extra lessons in the areas he is struggling. I am appalled that the therapist he was seeing gave any verbal comparison of two children - this should never be done.

If you are able to assist with additional lesson personally you can do this too.

It is important to remember that ADHD is present from a very young age, regardless of when it was diagnosed. This means your son may have missed out on some foundation skills prior to being put on Concerta.

Kind regards,
Delia

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Posted by: Gracie | 2012/06/21

I also have a 13 year old son who was diagnosed being ADD. He is on Ritalin LA 40mg - his school work has improved drastically over the past two terms. I have also noticed that his concentration at home has improved and he is not as restless as he was before. I used to take him to a therapist, which I found to be a total waste of time and money. She referred us to a psychiatrist who prescribed firstly Concerta (no improvement was seen) and then he prescribed Ritalin. It''s a difficult situation to be in and I hope you get it sorted out as soon as possible. It''s as frustrating for your son as it is for you. The way I see it, children with ADD know what they are capable of achieving, yet their inability to focus and concentrate limits them to an extent and that is why they struggle at school. I personally don''t have much faith in therapists. Good luck.

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