Posted by: debbie | 2010-02-27


depressed child?

my daughter is 6 now and has just moved to grade R. the teacher called me aside saying that she is not coping very well. She showed me her work. teacher says that she gets easily destracted hands in half work, can not draw a man in proportion. My daughter does some times colour out the lines. She cant draw a man and does not colour the picture but half colours with white inbetween. Teacher has stopped trying to correct work and throws it away if not right. My daughter has been so heartsore in tears about this. She feels like she cant do anything right. I am devestated. What can i do to help her. Should i get her to an occupational theoripist? I got a whole lot of books with Grade R and to tell you the truth i cant even draw a man in proportion. My daughter can build a 100 piece puzzel though

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Dear Debbie,

An occupational therapist (OT) can certainly assist the development of fine motor skills which it appears are the teacher's main area of concern. It may be worth having a meeting with the teacher and OT together; this shows the school you are pro actively addressing areas of concern and allows the teacher and OT to discuss and work toward the same goals. If after three months the teacher sees no improvement and/or you are still concerned about your daughter's emotional well being, an appointment with an educational psychologist may be in order.

It is important to initially try one therapy at a time to prevent your daughter thinking there is something wrong with her. Just as important is exposing her to the same expectations at home and school (and therapy) to build better confidence.

Best wishes,

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Posted by: Carol | 2010-03-12

Just so you don''t feel alone, two of my kids went to OT for 2 1/2 years, but with NO positive effect on handwriting and fine motor skills. The cause has to be identified first. When I finally put my foot down and said no more OT they changed their tune and made other recommendations. Schools put tremendous pressure on parents to go to OT or else... specially in Gr 0. My sons were practically declared brain dead by the schools (common bully tactic) but I refused to ship them off to remedial school - a bad handwriting and poor drawing skills is not a learning disability. I am in my late thirties and still can''t write neatly and their 40 year old father''s drawings are as simple as a five year old''s! By the way, both my sons have since received many academic awards, are briliant at chess (I note your daughter is good at puzzles), and still write and colour like crabs, haha. If you give OT a chance, INSIST from the very start that they give you a home programme with activities to do on a daily basis. If making money is more important they will resist. Educational Psychologists do absolutely brilliant work because they can engage in therapy for the whole family on how to deal with confidence and depression issues regarding your daughter, as well as not simply testing IQ, but identify specific areas of strenghts (good for your daughter) and weaknesses to work on. Good luck!

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