ADHD

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Posted by: Shelley | 2011-01-25

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Behaviour problem

My son is 7, he goes to a remedial school, grade 1.
but his behavious is unacceptable, he is disrespectful to adults, takes things from his aftercare and tells the teahcer he didn''t. Even at home for example if theres water on the floor after his bath he says he didnt do it. How do you change this behaviour - Im scared he is going to be kicked out of aftercare and maybe school eventually.
Any one else who can give me advice - maybe in same situation and knows what I can try, please post a reply with your cell number and I will contact you, Id appreciate it
I have tried punishment, such as time out, taking away privillages, star chart with a black mark. its not working. He can not handle being shouted at - ears are sensitive. but I have serious talks with him and he says he understands that he is doing wrong. yet a day or two on he repeats the behaviour.

Expert's Reply

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ADHD Expert

Dear Shelley,

The only way to overcome such behaviours is to put firm boundaries in place with consequences. It is essential that the same consequence be used each time. A star chart is also a wonderful way to reinforce positive beahviours: for every day that the desireable behaviour is displayed he is awarded a star, and if he achieves one every day for a week he gets a prize.

There are parenting workshops available which can assist in developing and implementing a structure - if you are interested please send me an Email with the area you live in.

Kind regards,
Delia

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Posted by: Shelley | 2011-02-15

Hi all - Id love to get hold of you all - but Im Facebook challenged - cant find you guys???
please feel free to find me though
shelley chandler - live in cape town
really hope to hear from you soon

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Posted by: Nelia Lisse | 2011-02-11

Hi, We have the sam problem with our 11yo son. Please email me and we an discuss, perhaps we can help each other. You can look me up on facebook as well.

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Posted by: Ren | 2011-01-31

I have the same problem with my 9 yo daughter! Could you look me up on Facebook? Ren Jay Kay? I would love to start a dialogue with you!

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Posted by: ADD/ADHD Expert | 2011-01-31

Dear Shelley,

The only way to overcome such behaviours is to put firm boundaries in place with consequences. It is essential that the same consequence be used each time. A star chart is also a wonderful way to reinforce positive beahviours: for every day that the desireable behaviour is displayed he is awarded a star, and if he achieves one every day for a week he gets a prize.

There are parenting workshops available which can assist in developing and implementing a structure - if you are interested please send me an Email with the area you live in.

Kind regards,
Delia

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