More than friends?

He's a part of your social life and hardly a weekend goes by that the two of you don't see each other. But does he see you as a friend only, or are there some long term romantic possibilities? Are either of you merely waiting for the right moment to take this friendship further, or are you missing other opportunities while flogging a dead horse?

Have you met this man’s parents?

He invited you and them over together for Sunday lunch
You ran into them outside the shopping centre, but it was obvious that they knew who you were
He never speaks about them and you wouldn’t know who they were if you walked past them outside the post office

Your bath tap has sprouted a leak.

It leaks for ten days and you eventually call a plumber to sort it out
He’s there five minutes after your call, sporting a monkey wrench
He promises and promises, but somehow nothing happens

How often do you spend time together?

Every day
Three to four times a week
You wait and wait for the phone to ring

Does he question you at all when you go out with other people?

No, and gets very uptight when you question him
Yes, but doesn’t seem phased when you go out with other men
Yes, and turns pale when you say that you really enjoyed a date

Have you met his friends?

No, you don’t even know who they are or if he has any
Yes, he made it a point to introduce me to them
Well, yes, we ran into some of them at the 24-hour shop at the garage

If there is some serious problem in his life – he gets fired or his mother gets very ill, how do you find out about it?

You hear it through the grapevine and now you know why he hasn’t phoned for three days
You were the first one he phoned to tell
He rocked up at your door in need of TLC

When he talks about the future it

Is obvious that he is making plans without you
You feature very obviously in his future plans
When he does mention you, it is somewhat of an afterthought

He has a year end function at work for which he needs a partner.

He assumes that you will go with him, and so do his colleagues
He asks you who you think he should take to the function, or even worse asks you whether one of your friends will accompany him
He asks you to go with him, but makes it clear that it is just as friends

The holidays are coming up and you both have three weeks’ leave.

He asks you to go overseas or to the coast with him
He simply makes plans to go away by himself to go and visit friends
He asks you whether you have made any plans and whether you feel like spending any of your holidays with him

It’s your birthday.

He asks two weeks in advance whether he can take you somewhere special
He spends the evening with you and a group of friends that you organised
He forgets your birthday completely and phones you the next day to apologise

More than friends?

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