Here are the key findings of the Woman’s
Health and Men’s Health Sex Survey of 2013. It reveals many fascinating things
you might not have suspected about your fellow South Africans.
Over 1 200 women and 1 600 men took part in
Cheating is rife!
Of the WH respondents, 30% said they had
cheated on a partner and 43% said they’d have sex with a married man, and 35% of
women who cheated also said they had done it at home. On the other hand, 30%
also said they would take back a partner who had cheated (against only 25% of
men who would take back a cheating partner), suggesting, perhaps, that their
own infidelities have made women more forgiving.
Also, the definition of cheating appears to
be very broad: 18% would consider having a close friendship with a male
colleague to be cheating; and 62% said flirting via SMS and social networks
counted as cheating.
The rise of the Hollywood
When it comes to their ‘lady gardens’, 46%
of respondents said they are shaved completely whilst 21% of men said the same,
and 41% say they trim regularly.
Just 5% of WH respondents do absolutely no
trimming at all, compared with 17% of men. But most WH respondents (57%) also
said they felt “comfortable” or “very comfortable” when they are naked.
Women have mixed feelings about oral sex
A surprising 35% of women do it only because they know
their partner enjoys it, but a third of the women did say they “loved”
performing oral sex. The guys still beat them hands down though, with 59%
saying they enjoyed performing oral sex.
Interestingly only 13% of WH respondents
found receiving oral sex to be the ‘most pleasing’ activity in bed (thrusting
technique and emotional connection rated much higher).
What’s the goal in bed?
The vast majority of women (46%), said that
their primary goal during sex was to connect with their partner. Only 9% said
an orgasm was their goal (which might explain why 10% said they never orgasm at
In the MH survey, 34% said their primary
goal was her orgasm (1.6% said it was ‘feeling loved’).
Rushing foreplay is the biggest mistake a guy can
make in the bedroom…
… and kissing is still the number one form
of foreplay (as voted by both men [90%] and women [93%]).
6. SA women are kinkier than ever (is it the 50 Shades
A whopping 45% of respondents said they
enjoyed being spanked!
And 61% had watched porn with a partner and 56%
had engaged in phone/SMS/Skype or chatroom sex, while 20% had used handcuffs and 7%
had had a threesome with another woman.
Also, 51% have had a friend with benefits.
Condoms are a priority, well, sort of
One in 10 women set out to use a condom with a
new partner, but get carried away and often don't, but seven out of 10 say they
always do. Just under half (48%) would say no to sex if there's no condom. In
fact, there's a higher chance she'll have sex if he's married than if she's
having her period; 57% of women said they would say no to sex if he's married;
38% if she's too drunk; and a whopping 71% if she's menstruating.
A high 47% of WH respondents said sex in public
was their biggest fantasy
Top of the charts
The majority of women (26%) agree that the
“cowboy” position (woman on top) is their favourite but the one they’d most
like to try is “sitting on his lap facing him”, while men’s favourite position
was the “missionary with legs up”.
Friends with benefits
78% of WH and 77% of MH respondents said
the best place to meet a partner is through mutual friends, which suggests
online dating is still a niche for singles.
A sexy 37% of women said they masturbate once or
twice a week, compared with only 29% of men. One in seven men and women said they
masturbated twice a week. Additionally it seems one in four women also admit to
keeping this a secret from their partner – fantasising about other people was
actually their biggest secret. Women aren't getting off to porn though – 70% of
the female respondents said they don't watch porn on an average week, compared
to 33% of men.
It seems when it comes to the time of day
respondents felt the sexiest – both (30%) men and women (28%) agree that they
prefer sex in the morning!
SA’s sexiest cities
East London got mixed reviews – whilst men
rated themselves as having the most sex, they also had the highest rates of
masturbation, and the most dissatisfaction according to women, who said that 60%
of them faked orgasms, and 48% who said their partners rushed too much.
Bloemfontein was rated as the “hardest
working” city, with the highest percentage of sex in the office place, whilst
Pretoria had the most sex in cars
South Africa’s kinkiest city was
Upington– with 60% of respondents who said they had used handcuffs and 30% who
had been tied up.
Men's Health key stats
are having more sex than men
A quarter of the women we surveyed are
having sex at least once a week, in comparison to just 18% of the men. More men
than women are having no sex at all, in fact a far higher number than the men
having sex at least once a week. But his dry spells are shorter: the majority
of the female respondents have gone without sex for three to five months,
versus the guys who have had a one-month dry spell.
[multiple] orgasm is on the rise...
One out of two women are typically having
an orgasm during sex (versus one in 10 who never have an orgasm). Almost double
the number of women say they're having three or more orgasms than none at all:
32% – the majority by 10 percent – said that clitoral stimulation by him was
most likely to make them orgasm. Only three percent of women say they fake
orgasm every time.
doesn't matter; emotional connection does
The most important element to please her:
emotional connection, followed in order by, thrusting technique, foreplay, oral
sex technique, duration of intercourse and lastly penis size. Perhaps this is
linked to the majority of female respondents who said that they're comfortable
with sex toys, but don't always want them in bed.
Q: How do you feel about sex toys?
A: It's an essential part of my sex life
Men 2%, vs Women 7%
shades of kinky
The female respondents were not afraid to
experiment (and, coincidentally, pretty keen to use restraints). The list of
erotic acts that she's tried and what she'd like on the menu:
porn with a partner: 61%
night stand: 52%
a vibrator on me: 48%
6. Spanked: 45%
7. Anal sex: 35%
8. Filmed/photographed ourselves: 33%
9. Tied up: 2%8
10. Spanked him: 26%
him up: 25%
12. Used handcuffs: 20%
13. Same-sex experience: 15%
14. Used a vibrator on him: 14%
15. Threesome with another woman: 7%
16. Threesome with another man: 6%
17. Tried asphyxiation*: 2%
a vibrator on her: 3%
her up: 32%
tied up: 26%
with two girls 11
a vibrator on me: 9%
with another guy: 7%
5 things she'd like to try:
up and/or role play
in a mirror
games were also last on her list of things to try.