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18 March 2009

Romance can last: study

Romance does not have to fizzle out in long-term relationships and progress into a companionship/friendship-type love, researchers say.

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Romance does not have to fizzle out in long-term relationships and progress into a companionship/friendship-type love, researchers say.

"Many believe that romantic love is the same as passionate love," said lead researcher Dr Bianca P. Acevedo, currently at the University of California, Santa Barbara. "It isn't. Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that passionate love has, minus the obsessive component."

She said that passionate or obsessive love includes feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. "This kind of love helps drive the shorter relationships but not the longer ones."

How the study was conducted
The researchers reviewed 25 studies with 6 070 individuals in short- and long-term relationships to find out whether romantic love is associated with more satisfaction. To determine this, they classified the relationships in each of the studies as romantic, passionate (romantic with obsession) or friendship-like love and categorized them as long- or short-term.

They examined 17 short-term relationship studies, which included 18- to 23-year-old college students who were single, dating or married, with the average relationship lasting less than four years. They also looked at 10 long-term relationship studies comprising middle-aged couples who were typically married 10 years or more. Two of the studies included both long- and short-term relationships in which it was possible to distinguish the two samples.

Romance makes the difference
The review found that those who reported greater romantic love were more satisfied in both the short- and long-term relationships. Companion-like love was only moderately associated with satisfaction in both short- and long-term relationships. And those who reported greater passionate love in their relationships were more satisfied in the short term compared to the long term.

Couples who reported more satisfaction in their relationships also reported being happier and having higher self-esteem.

Feeling that a partner is "there for you" makes for a good relationship, Acevedo said, and facilitates feelings of romantic love. On the other hand, "feelings of insecurity are generally associated with lower satisfaction, and in some cases may spark conflict in the relationship. This can manifest into obsessive love," she said.

Unnecessary compromise
This discovery may change people's expectations of what they want in long-term relationships. According to the authors, companionship love, which is what many couples see as the natural progression of a successful relationship, may be an unnecessary compromise.

"Couples should strive for love with all the trimmings," Acevedo said. "And couples who've been together a long time and wish to get back their romantic edge should know it is an attainable goal that, like most good things in life, requires energy and devotion."

The study is published in the March issue of the journal Review of General Psychology, which is published by the American Psychological Association. - (EurekAlert)

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