Our expert says:
Thank you for your post.
You are not unreasonable, is the short answer.
We all need to manage our time well, and that includes time with our children, partners, family, pets, time at the gym or other exercise. If we don't and always knock off late, we can end up suffering from long term stress, or burnout, which is not healthy.
We then feel guilty as we don't perform well at work or at home, and this results in a negative downward spiral making the problem even worse. It is up to you and your manager to ensure that you maintain a healthy balance as it is in everyone's best interest that you are bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at work.
Looking forward, you have the chance at your new place of employment to, at an early stage explain to your manager why you want to live a balanced life and how this will make you more productive. You can cite your own experience as an example, so that your new employer does not think you are shirking your duties. They might even admit that they would like to be as brave as you.
Speaking up might not be easy, but the alternative is worse.
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