Our expert says:
OK, it might be useful to see a psychologist, preferably one of the CBT format, to learn how to control that explosive habit better. What you'd best change to you can discuss with him;her, but at least to someone who can choose when its worthwhile and advantageous exploding and when not.
In the case you describe, DO, definitely, report all of them to the authorities for running an improperly unhealthy office by allowing and indeed encouraging smoking in ways that expose innocent and unaddicted people to second-hand smoke. I would think the landlord could also be liable.
Your MD is reacting in an unhelpful way. Maybe you can write an accurate letter, specifying ( do a bit of online research about the relevant law and regulations ) that you apologise that they were upset when you asked them ( as if your right under law / regulation whatever ) to stop smoking ( which is contrary to laws/regulatiosn whatever ) ; that you were concerned not to offend them but to ask for them to respect your rights as a non-smoker, and to suggest they all, tenants and landlord, adhere scrupulously to the requirements of law and regulations intended to protect everyone's health.
The do report them, and insist on your legal protections as a whistle-blower who had to blow the whistler while you still had enough breath left.
I have no respect whatever for smokers who insist on polluting shared environments and damaging the health of other people. Their right to smoke ends where your nostrils begin.
The French have a splendid term for the other thing you are expericing, of thinking of the brilliant things you might have said. They talk of "pensees d'escaliers", or "thoughts on the stairs" - the thoughts you have as you're walking downstairs, of the things you'd like to have said upstairs.
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