Our expert says:
There are indeed extra burdens to being a single mother, probably more than most women realise when they consider such a situation. And once one places oneself in a city distant from one's family and other supports, it will inevitably mean a lack of a traditional support system.
It's a pity if people are harsh in their comments, though some of these might indeed be needing consideration.
Its understandable to feel the way you do - but like many other perfectly understandable attitudes and ways of feeling, it might not be entirely helpful to you.
Maybe the father needs to be encouraged to spend more time with his child, for the child's sake, and to give you a little rest. Do you have friends who might help, even to provide a little break at times ? Can you find ways to reach out to other single mothers, so that you could baby-sit for eaxch other at times, and each get a little me-time, too ?
I wonder about Woman's suggestion - whether a maintenance court would be sensible enough to see the father's duties ( as he provides no time or direct care for the child himself ) as including the need for him to fund a caregiver / nanny some days a week ? And tell him its not about "being forced" to spend some effort caring for His child, but about being man enough to care for the child he chose to create. Nobody forced him to do that.
Zee's idea about inviting one of your sisters to join you might be worth considering. If they all work, and hence earn - why are they all living at home with your parents, and causing financial and other problems there ?
The court is right that it cannot force someone to spend time with their child ( if he's not man enough to bother to be a proper father ) - but it can compel him to pay properly the expenses of caruin for his child.
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