Our expert says:
Gosh, in all my years of practice, I have never come across anyone who had medical reasons that made them unable to kiss.
A marriage with no mental or physical intimacy would indeed be rather shallow. Have you both tried sincerely working with a marriage counsellor to see what could be worked out ?
Your posting is a bit confusing, as it's not clear who each of the "he"'s is. Presumably its not the new nf who is now unable to kiss or touch you that would be very peculiar for you to have found 2 similarly handicapped men. If that's so, then something really peculiar has happened, and need exploring - perhaps by you seeing a counsellor. A lover who refuses to love is an oddity.
If it's your husband, who says "use your imagination" he sounds a seriously confused and muddled man. It doesn't sound as though he is deliberately withholding from you love he is very capable of giving, but rather that he may have a number of deep issues inhibiting him from being loving at all. NOT to seek professional help when he is so limited in this way, and just expecting you to put up with it, is selfish and thoughtless, though probably not quite abusive. But its as thouh he is cheating on you, with himself, rather than with anyone else.
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