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Posted by: desperate dan | 2010-10-13

wife lost interest

My wife has lost all interest in sex, I have just returned from a business trip, and even then, no sex. Sex used to be great, we played with toys, massaged each other, and had romantic baths etc, but now quick sex twice a month if lucky, no toys, no romance, no oral, except a little that I give, we are in our early 40,s and I need to know how to get our sex life back, but she wont talk about it, and says that thats just the way it is, what can the prob be.

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It can be many things - hormonal changes, depression, disease, stress and fatique or relationship issues. Keep in mind, that age 40 a women sometimes feel that her body is not what it use to be and the embarrassment-factor or fear of rejection for that reason can be overwhelming. Show empathy and motivate her to see a professional. You can consult your doctor or phone the SASHA helpline for the contact details of a professional – 0860 100 262. Deidre -SASHA

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Posted by: Clive | 2010-10-15

I am happily married for 25 years. After the second child 16 years ago my wife suddenly aost all interest in sex.We are at the point where it at most once a week- but does not happen without an arguement. Very little foreplay is allowed and "  fingering "  is taboo.Kissing is- no go-, not to mention about oral sex. I still love her but it becomes very frustrating when I have a desire for sex. I really need help to improve this situation. She is not intersted in taking advice form experts >  Please help

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Posted by: Nice Guy | 2010-10-14

I am sorry Nimi, but i prefer to tell it like it is, no offence just a personal opinion.

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Posted by: nimi | 2010-10-14

Nice guy,why are u like this? U''re not nice as ur name implies. Mr, ur wife isn''t cheating on u, Guess it s stress. Talk 2 her about it.

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Posted by: Nice Guy | 2010-10-13

She must have been cheating on you. Divorce her, then you will be fine

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Posted by: sexologist | 2010-10-13

It can be many things - hormonal changes, depression, disease, stress and fatique or relationship issues. Keep in mind, that age 40 a women sometimes feel that her body is not what it use to be and the embarrassment-factor or fear of rejection for that reason can be overwhelming. Show empathy and motivate her to see a professional. You can consult your doctor or phone the SASHA helpline for the contact details of a professional – 0860 100 262. Deidre -SASHA

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