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Posted by: jack | 2011-02-24

why is it ???

i would like to know why is it that when a guy finds his wife,girlfriend etc cheating on him she says its his fault coz he never gave her enough love, attention etc

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OK, this is no general rule, but merely one of many possible responses. Men or women who are found to be cheating, rarely want to take honest personal responsibility for what they have done, and prefer to make excuses, usually blaming the victim. If a husband or wife feel they are not gettingg enough love or attention, this does not justify cheating - they should discuss this with their spouse, try to fix the problem, with the assistance of a marriage counsellor if needs be ; and if all else fails, get divorced before forming a relationship with someone else.

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Posted by: BulletWithButterflyWings | 2011-02-25

Justify or come up with any excuse its still faithlessness.

If you dont have the faith to be in a relationship then dont bother.

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Posted by: Romany | 2011-02-24

Men do exactly the same. Blame the wife/partner for their infidilities

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Posted by: Andre | 2011-02-24

Simply because that is the reason... Yeah you can argue alot of ways about it, but at the end its ALL about communication. One party cheating is as a reasult of both not doing something right.

You are as one, not two

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Posted by: James | 2011-02-24

Because people cant accept responsibilty and accountability fo9r their own actions. Its always someone elses fault.

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Posted by: jake | 2011-02-24

tina you would not complain !!!

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Posted by: jake | 2011-02-24

because im so good i did give her a 2nd chance it was good after that for few years now i suspect something again !! and as much as i love my family and her there will be NO WAY a 3rd time with her !!!

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Posted by: Tina | 2011-02-24

We put the blame on you because we cannot tell you the lover is better in bed or bigger than you are!

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Posted by: Opinion | 2011-02-24

If a woman sleeps with another man it is always more than physical.Do not give her a second chance,once she has gotten away with it once there is no reason to stop cheating.

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Posted by: jack | 2011-02-24

mm and works most of the time !!!!! well my case it worked once and think think its on the cards again !!! BUT NOT THIS TIME !!!

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Posted by: Female | 2011-02-24

Because its a more plausible,acceptable and kinder excuse than explaining you just wanted sex with someone else!

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Posted by: Kate | 2011-02-24

So that he feels guilty and forgives her...
She gets off the hook and makes him feel bad at the same time... Looks like a winner to me.

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2011-02-24

OK, this is no general rule, but merely one of many possible responses. Men or women who are found to be cheating, rarely want to take honest personal responsibility for what they have done, and prefer to make excuses, usually blaming the victim. If a husband or wife feel they are not gettingg enough love or attention, this does not justify cheating - they should discuss this with their spouse, try to fix the problem, with the assistance of a marriage counsellor if needs be ; and if all else fails, get divorced before forming a relationship with someone else.

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