Our expert says:
If he cannot take personal responsibility for whatgever he has done, and will only blame others, he will not change for the better ( and no good counsellor should let him consistently get away with this ). Whatever you or the kids might do, he has a free choice as to how he will respond to that - these responses are not helplessly inevitable.
It gets complex ( though it may be useful ) when a counsellor sees a couple AND sees each of them separately, but I think if he sees ONE of the couple separately, he should then also see the other alone. Discuss your concerns with the counsellor. You husband may not be deliberately lying, but describing how he sees things, or wants to see things, and apparently he feels he primary need is to feel justified in his bad choices.
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