Our expert says:
Lets se. Some people feel powerless because, in fact, they are. Some feel powerless however much power they get. You seem to be speakin about gradually gaining actual power at work, but not yet feeling used to it, and feeling hesitant about exterting the power you have. Lacking self-confidence, and expecting to fail ?
Now, be very cautious about comparing yourself to others of similar age who you see around you. You know all your own awful secrets about feeling insecure, but none of their secrets. You see them ACTING secure and confident and you are convinced - you see them as they wish to be seen, not necessarily as they are.
What would actually most help would be to see a good counsellor / psychotherapist who uses the current method best supported by good research, CBT, Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy ( because it works with Cognitions / thoughts and behaviours ) and helps you to review and revise your automatic unhelpful assumptions and responses, to built self-confidence and competence, and to feel more comfortable in company. Instead of feeling like a second-rate version of anyone else, you can enjoy recognizing that you are a first-rate version of yourself.
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