Our expert says:
Maybe you began to be more realistic in what you expected from a husband, after the birth of the child. But it sounds as though he has inded shown love towards you, and has put some considerable effort into improving himself and attending to the faults in his behaviour which you earlier identified.
Maybe more counselling would help to clarify your thinking and feelings here. You are not invited to marry the man he used to be - apparently, that has changed. Maybe it'd be useful to realistically review whether the man he is now, is worth marrying. The child would benefit from consistent caring parents, not necessarily from one specific person raher than another. Love between those who parent him, is beneficial to a child, rather than a loveless marriage.
Mothers are not neutral sometimes they long for a proper traditional wedding,and overlook the actual feelings of their child about the matter.
And I agree with maria in being shocked at the shrink's advice. Yes, there is value in your letting go of past hurts rather than dwelling on and in them ; but a shrink shouldn't tell you whether or not to marry someone, only to help you reach yorur own decisions
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