Our expert says:
Some people might say he sounds like a lazy bum - he seems to have been blatantly sponging off you for some time. As he gets all the advantages and sponsorship already, why would he want to get married ? At 16, a "party animal" may be tolerab le. At 35 it is tragic, and indicates someone who refuses to grow up - certainly you're describing someone uninterested in accepting adult responsibilities.
If he shows up drunk, refuse to let him in, and if he makes problems, call the police and have him arrested. Indeed, tell him its over and that you already have a child - but one that unlike him, is choosing to actually grow up and that IT IS OVER with him. The go to court and get a restraining roder to keep him away from both of you.
Stop engaging with him ; stop feeling embarrassed on his behalf, and stop letting him in. If he breaks the terms of the restraining order, have him arrested - and let him go to jail if he so chooses. What on earth do you find woarth caring about in this aging infant ?
And exposing a child to this idiot is not good for you or the child. Talking it over with him is obvious pointless. Action - evict him, exclude him and get the restraining order
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