Our expert says:
With 4 sibs living near enough to help your parents, it's not necessary for you to feel so solely responsible to give up other fulfilling plans you apparently have, in order to remain with them. You may be the eldest, but shouldn't take all the responsibility for fulfilling your parents dreams at the expense of your own.
I'm more uneasy about the basis for your staying overseas being, not some unique educational of job opportunity. but apparently from your feelings of love for someone who apparently doesn't even know about this yet ?
How sure can you be that this relationship will be lasting or of the type you are assuming it will be ?
You are taking too much responsibility on yourself, and placing too little on your sibs and indeed your parents themselves. Its not your fault, but situations like this usually create similar problems - even if you're wrong about your current relationship, and even thopugh it might end in disaster emotionally - if you go home to serve what you see as the needs of your parents, you could spend the rest of your life convinced that you sacrificed what you might (wrongly, but sincerely ) feel was your greatest chance of happiness, for them. And if you stay where you are, you will have room to feel guilty if anything happens to them, even though you could not have prevented it, even if you were at their side. Old men of 86 plus do die, for various reasons, and ultimately all of us die, even if we have a loving daughter at our sides.
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