Our expert says:
She sure has very old-fashioned ideas about what a child should do for a parent, and breakfast in bed is a really silly expectation. You need to talk with her gently but very firmly, and remind her that this is YOU home, and belongs to YOu and your husband, and that she cannot remain a long-stay princess during an indefinite visit, expecting special treatment. This home works accoding to YOUR rules and convenience, and not hers, and as adults, you will do as you please and spend what you please, of your own money. Do NOT allow her to turn this into an argument, and remind her that these are facts, and not open to arguyment or change, and that if she wants to rule the roost, she would need to return to her own roost.
You can say that you appreciate her help, but that it has, while in your home, to be under your terms, and you will not accept the blame and guilt game. It would be far safer to your marriage and your purse, to have mom go home, and hire a helper if and when needed
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