Our expert says:
This sounds very like anopther query I responded to recently - do check the archives of the forum. If this good is such a rotten father that he takes it out on the chuild when he gets upswet with you, he is not fit to be abybody;'s father or to have access to a child. Its far better for a child to have no access to such a father, than to gave someone who irregularly drops in and out of her life.
As to tactics, hard to say. If you keep ignoring him, will he get the message you want him to get, or the wrong message, or just persist in calling you ? Better to explain the situation to him very clearly, and insist he must either be a full-time, consistently available and loving father, or stop pretending. It's not that the 3-year-old isn' intelligent enough to understand this - it's HIM who can't understand.
Maybe it'd be useful to chat to the folks at the Maintenance Court ( he should be required by the court to pay maintenance, anyway ).
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