Our expert says:
Remember that the Maintenance Court can require him to pay maintenance for the kids, if he is forgetting his fatherly duties in this respect. It can't make him want to do so, but can make him HAVE to do so. It can't make him want to see them, either, but someone should explain to him that if he claims to be a man, he should not take it out on the children if he feels angry at the divorce.
Going via the court makes it fair and THEY can remiond him, rather than leaving you to have to ask and get into arguments.
Now, having sex once a month with your ex is a real problem. A fodoor should be open or shut, and this way you are giving him mixed messages as to whether it is ultimately over or not.
See a personal counselor to work out what on earth i is you actually want. If you can't get that clear, you will never achieve whatever it is you want
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