Our expert says:
Divorce support expert
Although you seemed happy with your life it sounds like signs of "infidelity" were present for a long time in your relationship. Your accepting behaviour only allowed this to go on for such a long time. Your husband says he doesn't want counselling which indicates that he does want out of the marriage. Because there are children involved I always first recommend to consider mediation which will assist you in putting your children's needs in perspective. Your children have already expressed stress to their father's absences. Dealing with a divorce in a pro active will spare them from further harm. Involving a PI will only reveal a hurtful truth...which you seem to know already. Ask yourself: How will it change the situation to have stranger bring you proof of many years of lies? Offer constructively that you would like to explore your problems together and if he still doesn't want then ask to then have the truth. ( but only if you are prepared for it). The truth though will help you move on to a better future. For yourself and your children.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal
advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.