Our expert says:
Early sexual wexperiences even if voluntary, and even more so when not, can cause complexities in your later sexual life and relaionships, and this is best dealt with in proper counselling.
Sometimes, indeed, someone who has been sexually abused or raped may come to expect that sex somehow needs to be forced or that they need to be pushed into it reluctantly.
Sounds like perhaps the counsellor you saw was under-trained or under-experienced to understand and deal with this more complex sort of problem.
Don' give up, but look for someone more experienced. If in your job you have medical aid, see a proper specialist psychologist for assessment and help.
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