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Posted by: John | 2010/05/03

What do i do

Guys please assist. My girlfriend just found out that she is pregnant. Now she does not want to have sex. What do i do?

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I think Simone has answered this question rather well, especially for couples who are planning a family and welcome the pregnancy. If this wasn't the case, however, consider whether your girl friend is frightened by the pregnancy and maybe is doubtful about going ahead. Try to understand what is going on for your girlfriend before you consider how to respond to her avoidance of sex.

Claire
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Posted by: Sexologist | 2010/05/05

I think Simone has answered this question rather well, especially for couples who are planning a family and welcome the pregnancy. If this wasn't the case, however, consider whether your girl friend is frightened by the pregnancy and maybe is doubtful about going ahead. Try to understand what is going on for your girlfriend before you consider how to respond to her avoidance of sex.

Claire
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Posted by: John | 2010/05/03

Thanks Simone, much appreciated will take heed of your advise.

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Posted by: simone | 2010/05/03

Pregnancy can affect sex in other ways. For example, hormonal changes that accompany pregnancy often influence a woman''s moods, which could alter her desire to have sex. For some couples, nausea, physical discomfort, weight gain, and changes in energy levels may present challenges to sex and the enjoyment of it.

As a result, an expectant couple may want to discuss experimenting with many different sexual positions, as well as try other ways to have pleasure in case one of the partners does not want to have intercourse. Changing positions is important because some women may experience sex differently while they''re pregnant  what they found pleasurable before conception may no longer be the case. That''s why it can help for the woman to listen to her body and act appropriately. This is particularly true if a woman has any pain or uterine bleeding, or if her " water is broken,"  in which case she''ll need to avoid sexual intercourse or penetration altogether and see a health care provider right away.

It''s also essential to consider and respect emotional and psychological boundaries to sex during pregnancy in order for both partners to feel safe and comfortable with their decision. Talk openly with one another throughout the pregnancy (as well as at other times, too). What do each of you want emotionally? Some men may continue to feel uneasy or fearful of hurting the fetus during sex even if they know it''s not possible. What about physically? With normal weight gain from pregnancy, some women may develop insecurities about their bodies and feel less desirable to their partner. How about sexually? One partner may want to have sex more often than the other, who may feel pressured or " obligated"  to maintain a sex routine that predates the pregnancy. Discussing these issues, while respecting each other''s concerns, could help bring about some sort of resolution.

Good luck!

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Posted by: simone | 2010/05/03

first find out why she doesnt want to have sex.if it is only bcoz of not having sex drive then u should understand her.to pregnant women it often happens.it will pass.

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