Our expert says:
Its very unlikely that you would "remember" such events if they were not true, or that you and your sister would have the same untrue beliefs. It surely did happen. And it doesn't really matter if other people believe you or not ; the important thing is how you decide to allow it to affect you. You did nothing wrong ; ABD did.
After all this time there's nothing useful you can do about him, and after all this time, there wouldn't be any evidence anyway. The only good reason for considering making any complaint about him, or asking round with others who were children at that time, would be if you had good reasons to believe he was still molesting young girls, and even then its not likely to prove useful.
Remarkably, some people seem to grow up without being troubled by unpleasant memories of such events, and not showing any apparent ill-effects ; others are indeed troubled, and may for a time become involved in bad behaviour as teens, including sexual misbehaviour.
Confronting the perp is rarely useful, though encouraged by some naive counsellors. And forgiving the perp is entirely unnecessary and unhelpful, except in the sense, not of letting him off the hook ( he shouldn't know of any such decision ) but in the sense of letting yourself off the hook and deciding not to any longer be tied to the events and the perp by bonds of personal bitterness.
DO see a good personal counsellor to help you to set yourself free
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