Our expert says:
I don't, obviously, know the details of this situation. She may feel she was somehow "dumped" in the outehuis, and may want to leave there to live again in an ordinary home. Maybe she is fit enough to do this - and then the issue is whether it is possible and desirable for her to return to live with you, or whether she can and should live with other members of the family. Maybe she is NOT fit enough to live in an ordinary home ( or not without extra care and attention which maybe none of you can provide) - maybe there are good medical reasons why she needs a more high-care setting ? In that case the problem is more one of helping her to accept the probably unwelcome situation and finding ways to make the best of it. Is there a social worker at the home who can assess the situation and advise on this ? If your concern is about not being able to look after her if she is now sick, don't you need a clear opinion from her doctor as to whether she is sick, how sick she is, what the outlook is, and what care she actually needs now and in the forseeable future ?
Wouldn't it be wise to arrange a family meeting, with all the adults involved, to discuss the reality of the situation and to explore what alternatives are available ?
The sussies shouldn't criticise you for your concerns about being able to care for her well enough, if they are not prepared to take her into THEIR home(s) and try to care for her, instead.
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